What does the acronym SAIL mean? It means to Sympathize, Accept, Invest, and Love. The -ing at the end of it indicates that this should be something you do all the time when you SAIL. How do you sympathize with someone? This is difficult to answer and everyone may have a different answer for it. I find that to be able to sympathize with someone that you must be able to feel with them. For example, if someone you know is suffering due to being addicted to drugs that wants help to quit doing drugs, but is unable to find help, and you are suffering due to being unable to get caught up on your bills, but you are unable to buy your children toys for their Birthdays, then you can feel the same suffering as the person addicted to drugs.
How is this the same? The suffering that a drug addict feels in wanting help, but is unable to get help is also the same suffering that a parent feels, but is unable to buy toys for their children’s Birthdays. This is due in part to feeling that things are hopeless. This is how drug addicts who want to quit, but are unable to get help often say that they feel in life. This is also often said by parents who want to buy toys for their children’s Birthdays, but are unable to do in how they feel. Therefore, the way to sympathize with someone is to find something that you can feel with them, in this example: hopeless.
The next step is to accept them. This means to simply accept them as another human being and not to look down on them because they are a drug addict. This does NOT mean to accept their drug use or anything illegal or what have you. It simply means to be willing to let them come to your church or other facility for rehabilitation help. I am part of a group in my area called Celebrate Recovery. Some of you may have heard of this group. It is known around the world.
Celebrate Recovery is a Christ-centered group to help people with hurts, habits, and hang-ups in life to be able to overcome these things so they can live better lives. We deal with many who are suffering in many ways, such as drug addicts, felons, the homeless, those who are trying to stop eating unhealthy food and/or too much or too little food, who have problems with pornography, and so forth. We are basically a support group to help people change their lifestyles so they can be better and more productive members to their families and to their communities.
One thing we teach is to accept all who come in and not to judge them or look down on them for their hurts, habits, and hang-ups. Many of us that are leaders in Celebrate Recovery, such as myself, are also receiving guidance for our hurts, habits, and hang-ups as well. We support each other and we also use The Bible in everything we do as well since the entire program is Christ-centered. It is critical to accept people to be able to help them in life.
The next thing is to invest time and even resources as needed to help people. This can be as simple as just listening to someone talk about their problems. Sometimes people just need someone to listen to them. This can also mean to help them get to job interviews so they can obtain employment. Sometimes people who are willing to work are unable to get to drive due to not having a driver’s license and/or vehicle to get to a job in order to work.
The final thing is to love that person. This whole process is covered in love throughout it, but this is not the kind of love I am talking about here. This is a continuing love for this person you have chosen to sympathize with in life. For example, when you invest into building a house you hire contractors to build your house. Once they finish the job you pay them, but you may never see them again. That is not love. That is just an investment in your house. You pay for a service here. So, then what is this continuing love I have mentioned?
Continuing love is part of unconditional love. This means that you choose to love someone without demanding or expecting anything in return. You are there not only to provide a service to them, but also to help them and support them. For example, you could try calling someone you haven’t heard from in a while to see how they are doing and if they need help with anything. That is showing love towards them. Do people call someone they don’t love? Not at all. Only people who love someone will call others.
I am not talking about a business entity trying to sell you something on the phone because they don’t love you. They only love your money and only use you to get money for their profits. That is just looking out for their own interests. They could care less about your interests beyond being able to get money from you. Other than that they don’t care about you and not caring is not loving. The Bible teaches this in many places about this love, but I will show one of my favorite places here below:
Philippians 2:4 NKJV
4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
When you are concerned with the interest of others this means that you are concerned for their well-being. This is what love is. It is also what it means to accept and to invest as well. Furthermore, this is how you sympathize with others. You look out for their interest and not just your own interests. When you apply these points in your life you will find that you will be SAIL-ing. That is all. Please share this with everyone you know. God bless you all.